Success at School vs Success in Life

Success at school and success at life are similar things. We want to do well at school because it means we will do well at life. We want to succeed and gain the respect of others. But, there are people who did great at school and flunked at life and there are people that did the opposite.

Key Takeaways:

  • We care about grades because it holds the prospect of a fulfilling life, career, and the respect of others. Excelling in school does not mean that you will excel in your career, though.
  • Schools are not teaching us how to work or how to love/interact with others.
  • In order to be a good person, we need to behave for 20 years while not blindly believing everything we are taught but instead rebelliously questioning everything on the inside.

“They teach us everything other than the two skills that really determine the quality of adult life: knowing how to choose the right job for us and knowing how to form satisfactory relationships.”


Want to follow along with the video or take notes? Check out the transcription of this video below.

[00:03] We want to do well at school for an obvious reason because as we’re often told, it’s the primary route to doing well at life. Few of us are in love with the A grades themselves. We want them because we’re understandably interested in one day having a fulfilling career, a pleasant house, and the respect of others. But sometimes more often than seems entirely reassuring, something pretty confusing occurs. We come across people who triumphed at school but flunked at life and vice versa. The former stars who wants knew exactly how to satisfy their teachers may now be flat lining in a law office or relocating to a provincial town in the hope of finding something better. The path that seemed guaranteed to lead to success has run into the sand. We shouldn’t actually be surprised. School curricula are not designed by people who necessarily have much experience of or talent at the world beyond school.

[01:02] Curricula are not reverse engineered from fulfilled adult lives in the here and now. They were intellectually influenced by all kinds of slightly random forces over hundreds of years of evolution shaped by, among other things, the curricular of medieval monasteries. The ideas of some 19th century German educationalists and the concerns of aristocratic court societies. This helps to explain the many bad habits that schools can inculcate. They suggest that the most important things are already known, but what is is all that could be. They can’t help but warn us about the dangers of originality. They want us to put up our hands and wait to be asked. They want us to keep asking other people for permission, they teach us to deliver on rather than change expectations. They teach us to redeploy ideas rather than originate them. They teach us to respect people in authority rather than imagine that in rather inspiring ways, no one actually knows quite what’s going on.

[02:09] They teach us everything other than the two skills that really determine the quality of adult life. Knowing how to choose the right job for us and knowing how to form satisfactory relationships. They’ll instruct us in Latin and how to measure the circumference of a circle long before they teach us these core subjects. Work and love. That said, it isn’t that all we need to do to succeed at life is flunk school; a good life requires us to do two very tricky things, be a very good boy or girl for 20 years and simultaneously never really believe blindly in the long term validity or seriousness of what we’re being asked to study. We need to be outwardly, entirely obedient, while inwardly, intelligently and unashamedly rebellious.

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