Apologies are some of the hardest things for people to do. But it’s one of the most important things in any relationship.

You may think that the key to being satisfied in your relationship is to point out the other person’s faults and insist that you’re right. But that isn’t true. Saying “sorry” is guaranteed to strengthen your relationship and make it better over time. It won’t put you in a weaker position at the mercy of your partner. Just try it.

Key Takeaways:

• We spend a lot of time in relationships pointing out what’s wrong with the other and insisting on our blamelessness. We imagine that’s good strategy … for getting what we want … and being happy…, but that’s nonsense.
• You may think that may weaken you or make you hostage to your partner’s vengeance. It never does.
• Give it a try. Out of the blue say “sorry I’m so anxious….”

“Next time you feel strong enough that you can, for a moment, stop insisting you’re always right, try a different tack.”